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There aren’t many things that can be more of a “buzz kill” to a happy couple than talk of a prenuptial agreement. However, prenups are a smart and popular choice for many men who meet their future wives with our without a millionaire matchmaker. To protect yourself just in case your marriage fails, follow the advice below to keep your relationship in tact in the meantime.

Choose the right time to initiate the consideration.
When it comes to success in relationships, timing is everything. While there is no perfect time to bring up a controversial issue to your partner, some “times” are better than others. You should let her know that you would like to talk about a prenup before you propose marriage. If you bring it up after you are already engaged, she may feel resentful or even regret having said yes to marriage. You should initiate the prenup conversation as soon as you are seriously considering marriage.  Bring it up when you are feeling confident about her investment in the relationship. Of course, find a time when your partner isn’t stressed, is in a good mood, and isn’t, to the best of your knowledge, mad at you for anything!

Act like a prenup’s no big deal and that you are just following pre-marital protocol.
As our good millionaire matchmakers will tell you, there are plenty of topics a couple should discuss before they decide to tie the knot. At our matchmaking agency, Model Quality Introductions, we would recommend that you talk about everything from having children and how many, and how often, and where you will live, and how you’ll manage your assets. So get your girlfriend of that mindset. Let her know that you feel discussing a prenup is as commonplace as going to premarital counseling or revising your estate plan. Bonus if you could bring it up within pre-marital counseling! Don’t let her think that there is anything about her that makes you want a prenup. If she thinks you’d want a prenup with any woman you met-whether through a matchmaking agency or off the street-she will be less likely to take it personally.

Find a way to show her that you will be generous throughout the marriage and afterward.
To a woman, the idea that you want to withhold anything from her is unromantic and far from ideal. Understand that she is marrying you, in part, because she wants to feel taken care of. If you want to make her feel better, display your generosity before or soon after you initiate the prenup conversation. Yes, you can buy her gifts. Perhaps, you can even take her to your estate planner so that she knows she would not be left empty-handed if you were to pass away first. These ideas along with your own will make this process much easier and protect both of you ever after.

You see her across the room at the bar. She’s the girl who has turned every head in the room. She has grown men losing their wits as they line up attempting to buy her next drink. She can’t go anywhere without someone telling her how stunning she is. She’s the dream girl in the database of a millionaire matchmaker. Every woman wants to be her. Every guy wants to date her.

But should you marry her?

There’s good news and bad news about relationships with extremely attractive women. If you are dating “a 10” who has inner beauty to match her gorgeous looks, proposing marriage may initially seem like a no-brainer. The truth is, marrying “the total package” has pros and cons. They are as follows:

Pros: 

Your wife will always be the hottest woman you know.
If she’s more than just a pretty face, you will probably always be very sexually attracted to her—maybe even less likely to stray.

You will gain instant respect.
Because your wife is also the hottest woman everyone else knows, people will automatically assume you are either rich, or really something special.

You will feel like you won the prize.
Ridiculously good looking woman have ridiculously high standards.  They know what they want and are used to men giving it to them. They are accustomed to upscale dating. They expect to be treated extremely well. If you go through all the hoops your wife requires, hopefully she will love and appreciate you like crazy.

Cons: 

Your wife will want diamonds and jewels—on the regular.
Being beautiful doesn’t come cheap, and neither does marrying her! Expect to foot the bill for everything from manicures and pedicures, to Botox, to designer handbags, to the penthouse suite at luxury hotels around on travel. If you do not provide this, a dozen men will line up behind you and will offer it. Because your “10” may have relied more on her looks than her wits, she may have taken on a low-paying, or p/t job that has given her more debt to deal with. As a millionaire matchmaker we can find her, but do you want to keep a woman like this for the long term?

This beauty is younger and may still love to party.
Most men who get into relationships with “10s” through our matchmaking agency are dating women at least ten to twenty years younger. It is often the case that these beautiful, young women are social butterflies. You may have sought out a matchmaking service because you were over the bar scene, but if you are married to a “10”, bar-hopping, night clubs, galas, and heavy socializing may reenter your lifestyle. Are you prepared for this.

Your wife will attract a lot of unwanted attention.
There will be countless men with their eyes on your wife at any given time. This could lead to insecurity, jealously, drama, and fights. Hopefully, your wife will have dated her share of men before she marries you, so she won’t feel like she’s missing out on anyone. Even so, it can be difficult to know that everywhere you go there are men trying to steal your woman away! When you sit down with our matchmaking agency we will discuss the pros and cons of 8’s, 9’s, and 10’s.